I’m currently in a bit of a love/hate relationship with my Twitter account.
Category: Douchers
Same Mistakes
My friend had reached her breaking point in her ongoing custody case that she decided to take matters into her own hands.
Bully
I often criticize WWE programming for their inability to write a decent storyline for women, so I should probably credit them when they get it right.
Fans were shocked when the Divas actually a) got a storyline and b) IT WAS GOOD!
Relative
I’ve long had a controversial opinion of the paparazzi; I don’t hate them.
I believe the media is a give & take system. Celebs use me to pimp their wares, I use them to further my career. However, even I have my hard limits.
Still Worth Fighting For
Ann Romney’s speech at the RNC both impressed and offended.
During her speech, the would-be first lady said that she & husband Mitt had a “real” marriage that had weathered ups & downs, not a fairy tale. Many pundits claimed that Mrs. Romney was taking a shot on the LGBT community with this statement.
Coming Home
I’ve made no secret about my hatred of the Bachelor, but an article about Emily Maynard & her fiancé Jef Holm got my attention.
In the article (found here), Holm defends his betrothed against cheating allegations & proceeds to claim that his brother is less than honest & meddlesome in family relationships.
We all have friends/family members like that. The ones who meddle in our affairs, offer an opinion where none is needed & in the end, muddle your mind & cloud your judgment. I’ve had a few friends like this throughout my life & during the past few weeks, they’ve made their opinions known.
Some were valuable, some were hurtful & to outsiders, some seemed to stem from jealousy. Too many armchair therapists prompted me not to trust my instincts & do something rash, that likely hurt someone I love very much. I have felt awful for days & I kind of hope it gets resolved happily. Some even went so far as to ask why certain things were the way they were, violating my love’s privacy & making me uncomfortable. Boundaries need to be set & they are being crossed & I know my first instinct is to protect him. I don’t like people butting in on a small scale, because I know my love likes to keep the intimate details of our lives private. So, if I become a lioness to protect the person I love from two or three gossip mongers, Holm must feel more distressed, as he must protect Maynard from everyone.
We all trust the people we love to have our backs when we’re stressed or nervous. Sometimes we get insecure & frazzled & just need that moment of security or a sounding board. But when that sounding board interjects themselves into a situation or clouds your judgement, it’s not helpful anymore. We have to think about how we’d want to be treated in a situation. Would you want a friend/relative to kick you while you’re down? Or would you want them to remind you to trust yourself? If its not the latter, don’t confide in them. They do not have your best interests at heart.
Relationships should consist of two people; not you, your partner & your meddlesome friend who keeps texting your partner to know what’s going on in the relationship they’re not in, or blasts you for feeling a certain way. That’s not constructive. So, while I’m not a fan of the Bachelor, I do commend Holm for attempting to keep gossip & meddlesome folk out of his relationship so it can be between him & Maynard.
Sure Fire Winners
The armchair critics were out in full force today when an interview revealed that Vanessa Bryant expects her husband to win championships.
The excerpt (found HERE) found Mrs. Kobe Bryant saying that if her husband is taking time away from their family to train and play, then yes, his goal should be to win championships and that should be the expectation. While I think she could have found a more tactful way to say it, she’s not wrong. If Kobe is taking time from Vanessa and their two daughters to play, then yes, his expectation should be the best that he should be. This is not just about athletes. If you are leaving your family to go to work every day, go to school, etc. shouldn’t your goal be to be the best that you can be? Why go to work to do a half assed job?
Fix You
Over the last week, A friend of mine has struggled with her partner’s despondence. As we sat on her patio, she asked me a question:
“How do I fix her?”
The Game
Today while walking to a doctor’s appointment, I had an interesting conversation with a guy needing directions. After asking for directions, he said he could use my phone number. The rest of the conversation went something like this:
Me: my boyfriend doesn’t like me giving out my number to strange men.
Creepo: neither does my wife but what she doesn’t know–
Me: I love my boyfriend–
Creeper: love has nothing to do with this sweetheart.
Me: I respect my boyfriend…& your wife.
This guy was well dressed & drove a Mercedes so I’m guessing he’s not used to the word “no.” But this exchange made me feel badly for this man’s wife & reminded me why I’m fortunate to have my boyfriend.
He’s not perfect but he’s honest & faithful. I don’t have to worry when he’s not with me about who or what he’s doing & I trust him completely. I don’t need to hear from him every second to know “we” are okay (I may still check in, but that’s more because I like to know how he is than insecurity, i do it with my friends when I haven’t heard from them in a few days as well). I’m guessing this woman knows her husband’s a cad & panics whenever he leaves the house. My ex husband cheated on me during the course of our marriage & we could never really rebuild the trust. I can only imagine what this woman feels; judging by his confidence level, he has done it before.
What’s the point of wanting your cake & eating it too? All you do is degrade your partner & look cheap doing it. If you’re with someone, you’ve made a commitment to them, the least you can do is keep it in your pants. Don’t blame the other person, they owe you nothing. But your partner does & they should have the decency to not share their body with anyone else.
Relationships aren’t always easy. Sometimes you’re moody & not engaged & every little thing your partner does is driving you crazy. However, with communication, understanding & even space, you can get through those speed bumps together. No one said sharing your life with another person was easy; nothing worth it is easy. But if you can’t even show the person respect they deserve by not sleeping with someone else, then you don’t deserve their love.
Issues
I like to rant.
A good friend of mine calls them “MH rants” & laughs her ass off when I get going.
Today on ASH Multimedia…an MH rant!
The Misadventures of MHC 