Yesterday, Entertainment Weekly announced the birth of David & Victoria Beckham’s daughter Harper Seven with the headline “It’s a girl (finally) for David & Victoria Beckham”.
This burns me in so many ways. As the parent of three daughters, it bugs me that the arrival of the Beckham daughter means somehow more than their three sons, as if having children of both gender somehow makes your life more fulfilling. It also implies that the Beckhams somehow needed a daughter, despite their stating numerous times that they didn’t need a daughter to appreciate their family (unlike Naomi Watts, who stated last year that she would only have another child if she could guarantee a girl as she did not want another boy).
I have never understood the idea that you “need” a child of both genders to appreciate raising children. My three daughters keep me plenty busy on their own. I don’t feel that I need a son to gain a better appreciation of how to be a parent. I hate when people make stupid comments of “three girls? Are you gonna try again to get that boy?!” That’s none of your business total stranger, but thanks for asking. Not only is it rude but you’ve just insulted my children & made them feel like they “need” a brother & then ask if we should get a brother.
The Beckhams should be able to enjoy their new daughter without the armchair critics mocking the child (claiming her mother will teach her to starve herself) or devaluing their beloved sons to build up the “hype” of the Beckham daughter. Brooklyn Beckham is 12 years old. He can read headlines & see the snotty comments about his mother & brothers. He can read articles claiming that his mother will favour his sister. Why put that idea out there for a child to read? Not only is it cruel, but it is dangerous as paparazzi will trip over themselves to get a snap of little Harper, endangering the Beckham family in the process.
I hope we can show a little more tact in the future so that families with multiple children of the same gender won’t have to feel like their family is somehow less special because their children aren’t both sexes.