“Perhaps one did not want to be loved so much as to be understood.”
George Orwell wrote a lot of interesting books describing the future of mankind; not much of it was pretty.
But Orwell had a knack for telling stories that made people think. 1984 is still thought provoking, despite the fact that it’s been nearly 30 years since it’s ideas should have come to fruition. Orwell had a knack for making us scared, making us think and most of all, for making us evaluate our lives, our government and where we are going.
We think love will conquer all, but it really doesn’t. We need more. We need someone who understands us and understands us well. I’ve always been fortunate because, while most of the men in my life do not understand me, my best friends can read me like a book. Drew will know from a text message that something is not right in the house of Denmark based on punctuation. My closest girl friend can read my body language and just know something is amiss.
However, we all want someone who understands us. Someone who loves us so much that they’re in tune to our feelings to the point where even when we aren’t with that person every second. we know what they are thinking, what they’re feeling and we know them, better than people who talk to them every single day. We all want someone who “gets” us and someone who will always “get” us and no amount of time, space, conflict, or frustration changes that. We want someone who provides us with that understanding because we’ll finally know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we are perfectly okay. We don’t need to change, or pretend to be someone we aren’t because the other person understands the light and dark side of you. It’s a nice thought, even if it doesn’t seem to happen often. We all want to know that our quirks, our limitations, are okay, that we can be best and our worst selves and that person will still like us when all is said & done.
Maybe it won’t happen, because it’s not possible for someone to completely “get” one person. But if it does happen, it’s a great feeling. It’s nice to know someone totally understands how you think, your reactions and can read you like a book, because then you can communicate and find that elusive happy togetherness that you continuously look for in all of the wrong places (and maybe even the right one).