“If you love someone, you tell them, even if you’re scared it’s not the right thing. Even if you’re scared that it’ll cause problems. Even if you’re scared it’ll burn your life to the ground. You say it, and you say it loud. Then you go from there.”
I don’t actually watch Grey’s Anatomy. I’ve seen it once & I think I cried. I do sort of keep up with online recaps as I get asked about the show with some frequency. Apparently my 5yo shares a name with a former character from the show, & almost everyone I know watches it. So, I follow along because I pride myself on having a basic understanding of my friends’ interests, so if they’re talking about something, I can follow along.
This quote was in every recap this week, & I can understand why. We all want love, but love scares the crap out of us.
We all think of how it’ll fit into our plans, the timing, the moment, etc. We let it break down until there’s nothing left but smouldering embers of what was once something beautiful. We never just love someone, we look @ what we get, not how we can make our love happy. The ones who do look at it that way are often left alone & vulnerable, as people see unconditional love as something odd, or confusing.
We are conditioned to think of the worst case scenario, not just accept that someone we love loves us in return. We start questioning our choice, wondering what if my friends/parents/siblings/pets don’t approve instead of knowing you made the right choice. We struggle to be our best selves, hoping it will make them stay. Then of course, we can’t live up to the standard we set & the first mistake sends us crashing down.
Maybe we should just throw caution to the wind & just tell people that we love them, even if we can’t be perfect. Maybe we should find that person & tell them how we feel, risk the rejection, risk facing the fallout of hurting someone one too many times & just tell them that you love them & hope for the best.
We need to let go of fear, self loathing, indecision & run to that person, tell them how we feel & face the repercussions. You don’t want to be faced with the harsh reality that you were too late & you’ve lost your person, the one you were meant for…
…and that concludes my Grey’s style VoiceOver. This is probably why I don’t watch TV. Their insipid quotes make me think things like this.